By Niki Jalal, Contributing Writer
I remember my first flight with my oldest son. He was four months old and we were going to New York to visit my mother in-law. When the flight attendant gave instructions on what to do in an emergency situation, she made it clear that people traveling with small children should secure their own oxygen mask before that of the child. Although I had flown many times before, I had never paid close attention to this particular part. I was somewhat panicked. How could I possibly put my need for oxygen before that of my baby? How could anyone suggest such a thing?
Fortunately, fourteen years, three children, and many flights later, I have not been in such a critical situation. However, time and experience have taught me just how important such advice truly is. I must take care of myself first in order to be in the best position to take care of others, especially my children.
Putting yourself first is particularly difficult when it comes to preventative care. It was so tempting to trade my recent annual GYN appointment for a last minute invitation to have lunch with my 10 year old. However, I have learned that putting my wellness needs at the top of my priority list makes all the difference in the world. I also know that the time I set aside each day for personal fitness is a gift that I give to myself and to my family. By setting aside that time, I am more equipped to handle the various responsibilities of being a mother. The hour or so I spend focused on my workout is more than accounted for in my increased focus, productivity, and energy.
And I am not alone. Some of the greatest mothers I know are those who give themselves permission to take good care of themselves. These are the women who bundle up their babies in strollers and meet a girlfriend for a power walk and rap session. These are also the women who you may see in the grocery store clad in running shorts and cross trainers with a cranky toddler (or two) in tow.
Many of my clients are mothers and I am constantly amazed at how they fit it all in. Then I remember that valuing our own needs is a big part of ‘how’ we fit it all in.
Mothers often set the tone for the entire family. As my grandfather used to say, “If momma ain’t happy…ain’t nobody happy!”
Be happy. Be healthy.