Then, add to that, starting a family. With the birth of our children, we look at our bodies in a more functional way…through birthing and breastfeeding. During our reproductive years, it can become very hard for us to differentiate our sexual roles from our functional roles. We can’t easily turn off mommy and turn on “hot mama”. That’s why these statistics concerning women’s sexual health are so believable:
- It’s estimated that 10% of women never reach orgasm, no matter the stimulation. (WebMD.com)
- It’s also estimated that only 19% of women are orgasmic with a partner. (WebMD.com)
- Women are much more likely to be nearly always or always orgasmic when alone than with a partner. (The Kinsey Institute)
Wow! These stats say a lot!
We have to take control of our sexuality and discuss sex more openly. Also, we have to learn how our bodies function. After all, if we are blessed with the gift of being able to have an orgasm, isn’t it a shame to let that ability go to waste. =}
So, here’s a quick guide to get us started on the journey of getting our sexy back:
- Yes, you’ve heard it before…love your body. But not only love your body, freely explore your body. If you don’t know what makes you tick, how can anyone el
se. - Stand up straight, Missy! Your posture conveys a lot. Surprisingly, if you stand up and walk straight, not only do you look better, but you feel sexier. If you need help with getting a better posture, use shapewear that supports your back, correctly aligns your shoulders, and lifts your bust.
- Use your body. Lift weights, dance, walk, or do whatever else that makes you glow in your skin.
- Wear things that make you feel more confident. Each woman is different. So, while a pair of shorts and a nice top with flat sandals may make one mom feel sexy, a power suit may make another.
- Open your mind. Intercourse is not about recreation, nor is it solely about procreation. If we explore how energy flows through our bodies and all that our bodies are capable of doing, we could live a more fulfilling sexual life. Something worth learning more about is Tantra, a 6000+ year old practice born in India.
Our moms may have told us to keep our legs closed or not touch “down there” for fear of going blind or going to hell. But, these beliefs have kept us from having a healthy relationship with sex.
Never have I felt this way and I believe this is a common feeling among most moms. Once we get to a place where we feel we have a little freedom and time to refocus on ourselves, we begin to ask, “How can I be at my very best?” For me, the feeling that I’m one step beyond my reproductive years, has spurred me into massive action. And, this action is showing up in my life by me challenging myself more, feeling way more comfortable with myself, and welcoming my sexuality.
We don’t have to strive to be a MILF (“Mom I’d Like to ****”) to feel at ease in our skin and exude confidence. All, we have to do is take control of our sexuality.
So, now I’m embracing my sexy self…stretch marks and all!